Both of you are in fear. Watching our kids struggle with a problem we can’t help with or stop can cause us to turn toward each other and away from each other. The desperation is unbearable. We want our child to have the best life and are afraid doing something about the problem could impact or stall their progress at the same time KNOW if we do nothing we could and they could pay the ultimate price -death. The problem is HOW do we go about it – that is the part we may not agree on. Do we tell anyone, do we try, or keep trying to handle it ourselves – one more chance, do we seek a therapist or all in for treatment? We, I, each of us, can’t even think straight and our child keeps doing what they are doing and we dread that phone call each night they are out with “friends.”
So, what is the best approach? What can be done? Addiction is underrated as a medical problem. It is deadly, like cancer. If you knew your child had cancer you wouldn’t try to figure it out on your own – you can’t fix it, you can’t stop it – addiction is consuming your child, impacting your other kids and tearing you apart. If it were cancer you would get help immediately. Why do we wait – denial. It is illusive, we doubt, not sure it is that bad. Are we waiting for stage 4? Or can we start healing at stage 2? How long will we let it continue? Yes we have a role, our teens cannot opt into care without us. So what is next. We need to know we can’t fix this. We also don’t have all the information we need to approach it. We need help. It starts with us and stops with us. We need someone to look at our situation, our family dynamics, our child, our plans for our child and what is the right course of care. An interventionist does just this and more – the more part is the relief of pressure, the reduction of fear, the establishment of a clear path and a compassionate approach to get there.